Adoption is beautiful.
But the road to adoption is often not.
The journey is filled with tears and grief on all sides.
An unplanned pregnancy brings a new mother tears of confusion. Tears of shame and rejection. She cries herself to sleep as she feels a baby kicking within. A baby she knows she cannot keep.
She cries tears of pain as the baby is born, and tears of love when she holds her baby for the first time. Tears fall upon the paper documents as she signs the termination of her rights as a parent. Tears of separation as she says goodbye to a child she'll never raise, even though her post-partum body would beg to differ.
The tears of a birthmother grieving for her child.
An unexpected infertility brings a couple tears of despair. Tears of disappointment and confusion. Tears of jealousy and bitterness as everyone around them announces yet another pregnancy. They mourn the loss of having their own biological child. Tears of injustice fall down their faces at every hurdle in adoption-- homestudy, fingerprints, background checks, paperwork, fundraising-- just to be able to be called "Mom and Dad."
They face tears of disbelief and impatience as they wait. And wait.
They meet a birthmother and believe THIS is the one, only to be rejected. Broken hearted. The tears never stop flowing. They grieve and wait some more. Every day passes by hoping for THE phone call or email that never seems to come.
And then one day, like a bright ray of light cutting through the darkest of storms, IT COMES.
These lives intersect. And suddenly the tears transform.
The birthmother's tears now include tears of relief. She trusts that her baby will be loved and nurtured in the couple's arms.
And for the couple, the tears of despair suddenly turn into tears of joy and deep, profound humility for the gift they will be entrusted.
The journey to this moment has been flooded with so many tears,
and as you humbly hold the child of another woman's womb as your own,
you know deep down it's just not fair.
Why must she cry tears of grief while I cry tears of joy?
It brings tears to my eyes even today.
I'm reminded of God's faithfulness.
He hears the cries of longing couples.
And he hears the cries of an infant who has been taken from one family and placed into another.
God works through all these tears.
They are not in vain.
And they are not unseen.
And one day, one GLORIOUS day, they will be no more.
"He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away."