heart of a birthmother...

Last week, out of the blue, we received a beautiful email from Jameson's birthparents.  It was the first time they have reached out to us and we couldn't have been more thrilled!  What an answer to many prayers.  Our deepest hope is that over time, our relationship will continue to grow, and one day, they'll be reading these very words on this blog. 

Birthparents mean so much to our family.  It's because of their loving sacrifice we're able to be a family.  Whether our children understand it now or not, birthparents mean (and will mean) so much to them.  It's so unfortunate that birthparents are often misunderstood and stereotyped for the decisions they have lovingly made for their children.  

Jameson's birthmother sent us the following poem that I think perfectly captures the heart of a birthmother:

Because I Love You

by Shelly I.

I searched my heart and soul and mind

Because I love you.

I cried myself to sleep many nights
Because I love you.

I looked long and hard and half way across the country for your parents
Because I love you.

You now have a mommy and a daddy
Because I love you.

You have cousins who can’t wait to hold you and play with you
Because I love you.

You have loving aunts and uncles
Because I love you.

You have grandparents who are so proud to call you grandson
Because I love you.

There will never be a worry about how to feed you
Because I love you.

You will never be told, I’m sorry, honey, there is no milk
Because I love you.

You won't have to keep wearing the clothes you outgrew
Because I love you.

You won't to move and attend many different schools
Because I love you.

You have a stable home environment
Because I love you.

You won't  have to wait for me to get out of bed
Because I love you.

You will have a backyard to run and jump and play in
Because I love you.

Your life won't be a struggle
Because I love you.

You are surrounded by people who love you
Because I love you.

I let you go
Because I love you.

I can live with this
Because I love you.